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This page..... Our first born ~ James Williamson. After suffering a miscarriage with my first pregnancy in Dorchester, Massachusetts, I was on my way to the Farmer's Market via subway when I noticed what looked like a newborn across the isle. Both mother and babe appeared completely peaceful, and a little boy was playing with the baby's tiny, blue hat, taking it off, putting back on, again and again. This didn't seem to bother the baby in the least bit, nor did the noise of the train with its screeching wheels or jerking at sudden stops. "How old is your baby?" I couldn't resist asking. "Three days," the mom shyly returned helping the youngster get the hat on without covering the baby's eyes. "How can he be so calm? And aren't you afraid of germs with him being so new?" I thought all newborns cried a lot. "We had him at home and the breast milk gives him all the immunities he needs," she simply replied. "Oh, you mean no drugs, shots or separation," I interpreted. "Exactly." When I got home to our third floor triple decker apartment, I was so excited. "I can't wait to tell Mark!" Sadly, his reaction was not what I'd expected. "I'd pass out with all the blood," was his squeamish reply. Not wanting to press the issue, I let the subject slide. One lunch hour a few days later I found "The Immaculate Deception" on sale at Barnes & Noble and picked it up, not knowing what a bomb shell it was. This was confirmation! God surely would change Mark's mind after reading this. Unfortunately, I miscarried that baby, but meanwhile the Lord had the time he needed to help Mark change his mind on homebirth. We were half way through the second trimester with my second pregnancy when we attended the ACHI course. ACHI is "Association for Childbirth at Home International". We learned why, in this day and age, despite all the modern technology, homebirth is safer. We learned about all the possible emergencies and how to deal with each one. We were told when it might be necessary to forego homebirth and head for the hospital. We confronted skeptics and doubters. One "well-meaning" woman who led a seminary wives Bible study came to our home uninvited and told us how we were sinning against God in planning to have our first baby at home. She would have prevented it altogether if she could, but she didn't realize God ordained our homebirth. It was His plan for us, so He made it possible and safe. I kept physically active for most of the pregnancy, swimming about a mile a day and walking the same. Mark and I took Bradley preparation for childbirth in the last trimester and felt confident and excited when labor began. We told neither of our mothers of the planned homebirth. By the way, I lost my mucous plug two weeks before real labor began. My midwife said I could go on the way I was but without underpants. This was fine except one warm November day when a wasp flew up my dress and bit my bottom. Ouch! I went through a day of what I thought was labor, but the contractions never got regular. Mark stayed home anyway and took me out for ice cream and walks in the mall. By evening, there were no more contractions and no baby. That night I slept pretty well but felt some more contractions off and on. By seven-thirty a.m. asked Mark if he could stay home from work at EPA as he'd stayed home from class at Duke the day before. After he called in to arrange it, things started picking up quickly, so we got Elisabeth on the phone. Svea, the other lay midwife, brought her over at about 9:30, and she stayed until about that time at night. Denny, my friend who was also due in 2 weeks, arrived a bit later. They were comforting friends who, along with Mark, encouraged me throughout to keep as vertical as possible. At the onset of labor Mark had insisted I take some calcium to dull the pain, so I had some with a tall glass of milk. Later, during transition, it all came back out. Progress had slowed a bit about an hour or more before transition, so they got me up and walked me, (not just to the bathroom), and gave me some raspberry leaf or blue cohosh tea. I can't remember, but whatever it was, it must have upset my stomach, as that was when the milk came back. It was for the good though, because they say it (upchuckin') opens you up, and soon after that last trip to the bathroom I felt like pushing. I held back for a while (with Mark's help) at the request of my attendants; but soon the head crowned without receding. The sac of waters came first, and Elisabeth finally punctured it. They had me reach down and feel the baby's head and held up a mirror so I could see the little patch of black hair. This encouraged me immediately. Soon, I was allowed to push athletically, and after the head was born the shoulders failed to rotate. In first stage I'd been either reclining or walking, and up to this point in second stage, I'd been lying on my side. Elisabeth got me up on all fours, and the shoulders came out together. Later, after little Jamie nursed and settled down, while I was being stitched, that "well-meaning" seminary wife called, and Denny said, "She can't come to the phone right now; she's all tied up." We all had a chuckle over that, to the point where Elisabeth had to tell me to "be still!" and Denny explained to her how safely the birth took place. I never heard from her again. Jamie was born December 4, 1980, a day before his due date. He weighed 10.3 pounds and topped the charts for his apgars. He was on TV when just a week old! The local news program came to the farmhouse where he was born. Julia Rose ~ Second born
Daniel Ward ~ Third born
Janai Abrianna is our 11th.
baby. She is our 8th daughter. My 2 elder children,
Juli-20 and Vance-18 were both home from work and college to be
there when Janai entered our family. I believe that is what
made her birth all the more special to me. Having all of our
homeschooled children present is what made it all perfect. I was
waken up about 3 30 a.m. thinking I was having a contraction.
I didn't know if I was dreaming or if it was real. I decided
to make myself stay awake to see if I would have another one.
Sure enough, 5 minutes later I had another contraction. I
went downstairs to do some laundry and came and woke up my husband
about 3:45. We contacted our midwife and she arrived at four.
I was upstairs soaking in the bathtub when she arrived. Upon
entering the bathroom and Ripped From My Body; My 2 Cesarean Births by Diana Bachmura #1-Gordon's birth:
At 7:00pm on Thursday evening
I went to Balboa Naval Hospital in I had complete confidence in my doctor. How could I have known what was about to happen? At around 9am, after 2 bags of
I.V. fluid were pumped into me, the Pitocin was started. I was barely
contracting by 5pm even though So at 8am Saturday morning I was taken back to labor and delivery (I had spent the night in the postpartum ward) and pitocin was started again. My contractions had all but stopped during the night. By 11am I was feeling uncomfortable for the first time. Also keep in mind I hadn't eaten since 6am Friday. The nurse checked me and I was 4 cm dilated. It was decided that my water was to be broke, and that would speed things up. I don't recall being part of that decision. By noon the contractions started coming on strong and hard. My husband, Gordon, had gone to the airport to pick up his mom; the baby was supposed to be here by now! I asked for something to take
the edge off, those pitocin contractions were no joke! I was given
something to drink so I wouldn't get nauseous from the narcotic. I
don't think they ever asked me what I They continued to turn up the
pit and even though I was so high I could hardly speak, it did NOT
take the edge off. Those pit contractions were no joke! A ½
an hour later, approx. 12:30pm, I was By early evening the pitocin was at the maximum level and not much was happening. As soon as the pit was turned up my contractions came on hard and fast, but would peter out in about 10 minutes. I was dilated to about 6 cm by now! The on call doc was getting concerned
and got authorization to turn up the pit some more. By around 9 or
10pm everyone noticed the urine bag had not been emptied in a long
time and the stuff that was Who cares how he was born? You have a healthy baby, that's all that really matters right? Ultimately, yes. However, I wondered what was wrong with my body that I couldn't give birth as God intended? In the weeks that followed, I
was in and out of the emergency room for uterine infections and external
wound infections. The tops of my feet were as big as grapefruits.
I couldn't roll over and pick up my crying baby. My brand new son
lost over 1 ½ lbs in his first week of life because the pain
medication I was on were drugging him as he nursed. He would wake
up screaming every ½ hour because he was starving. Of course
the doctors said the meds were safe for nursing Every year on my son's birthday my mother in law calls me to say, "We almost lost you that day, I'm glad you're here." My recovery was long and difficult. Would I ever elect to do this again? NO WAY! It took a long time and alot of research, but I would try a VBAC at home. #2 Sara's birth:
I went through 3 doctors before
I found one who trusted in the birth process. The closer I got
to labor, the less I wanted to go to the On Saturday afternoon, the contractions I had been having for weeks changed. I started feeling them in my back. I called my doula, Leslie, and asked her to come over and give me a massage. I didn't know if this was it, but I needed some relief, (Leslie is a massage therapist; bonus for me!) I began scrubbing the floors and bath tubs etc. in case this was it; I couldn't have everyone coming over to a dirty house! Leslie arrived around 7:45pm and
set up her table. By now I was hurting pretty bad in my back,
I suppose scrubbing the floor on my hands and knees didn't help that
much! From around 8-9pm I began to feel some relief from my
lower back pain as Leslie worked her Kaye and Lindy, my midwives, arrived well, I don't know when. But by midnight or so, Leslie had to go help another lady in labor, so Amy, my friend, childbirth educator, and doula, came over to help me. By the time she arrived, I was having some pretty rough back labor. My baby had turned posterior on me. I was vomiting every time I'd try to drink something, and I was moaning very, very loudly. But I didn't care. Kaye and Lindy had me try a few positions to try and get the baby to turn, with no success. Gordon, my husband, and Amy were taking turns putting immense pressure on my lower back. The contractions were coming back to back and incredibly strong, but when they came down, the intense back pain was still there. I was just not progressing, I was at 4 cm by 5am. Around 5:15am we decided to transport to the hospital. I was reluctant, but I trusted Kaye and Lindy completely. Some time before then Leslie had come back and Amy had gone home. We arrived at the hospital around
6am. I was wearing a robe and a tank top. Every time I
had a contraction, I'd stop in the hall, lean against the wall, and
gush fluid all over the floor. As soon as I I was wearing a tank top and my robe. When I got into a room, the nurse threw a paper gown on the bed and told me to put it on. I asked if I could wear my own clothes. She said it was against hospital policy. I told her I would sign an Against Medical Advice waiver. She got angry and left the room, but I was wearing my own clothes. Kaye and Lindy left to take care
of another lady in labor. It was a full moon, there were lots
of women in labor. The next nurse who was assigned to me treated
me with utter distaste for trying to do this At home I was dealing with the
contractions, not very well, but I Right after the epidural started
to take effect, the doctor came to see me. Finally! He was very
rude. He said babies die when people try homebirths, and a VBAC
at that! He told me I should just give in and have a c-section
right now because the baby was not going to Visibly angry he said he'd give
me 2 hours. No pressure. Absolutely terrified and crying,
Leslie called Kaye and Lindy to let them know what was happening.
True to his word, the doctor showed up 2 She didn't, she waited for him to call. When he did, he wouldn't even speak to me. He asked to speak to my husband. He told Gordon that I was being irresponsible, how long was he going to let me do this. That's how babies die you know! Did he want to raise 2, well possibly 1 child without a wife/mother? My poor husband. I was progressing very, very slowly. The doctor came some time in the late afternoon. The nurse told him I was a good 8 cm so he did a check too. He told her no way was I at 8cm, he said I was only a 6 at best! He told me he'd like to get this over with before dinner, and that if he left, he didn't want to come back in the middle of the night. He ordered pitocin to be started. I fought and lost. Crying again, I called Kaye and Lindy, they were just finishing up at the other birth and would be back in a little while. Poor Leslie, this was more than she bargained for I think. Kaye and Lindy returned and had an idea. They spoke to the charge nurse who created a diversion down the hall. Kaye stuck her arm up me, pushed the baby out of the birth canal, and turned her. Bam! I was at 9 ½ cm with a little lip. Kaye and Lindy and the charge
nurse had me start pushing as they held back the lip. I was doing
it! This was really going to happen. I'd The doctor called and ordered
a blood test as it was getting close to 24 hours since my bag of waters
broke, and he wanted to check for infection. I tried to fight
it because I didn't have a temperature, but I was getting tired of
fighting. The results of the test revealed a high white cell
count, (incidentally, it was the same as it was when I was
I signed the consent form and
started to cry. Gordon, Kaye, Lindy, and Leslie tried to be supportive,
but I had failed again. As I was wheeled in to surgery and the
stronger drugs began to take The doctor asked Gordon if I had
had problems with the first surgery because there was a lot of scar
tissue. I believe his exact words were, "it's a mess in here!"
My uterus had adhered to my abdominal wall so completely, he
couldn't take it out to sew it up (standard c-section practice is
to take the uterus out of the abdominal cavity to repair it).
He said he cleaned it up the best he could and told my husband that
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